Today feels like a fresh start. I think it has to do with the lunar eclipse. I’ve been following astrology a lot these past 6 months, and while I’ve been trying to ween away from it to live a more “carefree, spontaneous” life, I think I’m still a little attached.
According to astrology, this blood moon/lunar eclipse is all about realizing the past three years and moving forward.
The past three years have been hell for me, filled with confusion, shame, regret and guilt. There has been lots of trial and error, and tons of giving it my all and falling back down. There’s been lots of rising up to greatness, with a nagging feeling of, “no, not yet. This isn’t it. You’re going to come back down and start over.” And I had to do just that… over and over again.
A relationship I was in ended about.. a year and a half ago. And we dated for about a year and a half. So, three years for that. I’ve still had a hard time dealing with the relationship while I was in it and the backlash of the break-up. I have never in my life felt so much guilt, shame, and I’ve never had such low self-worth. I felt horrible because of the person I became, the way I acted, and the things I said. I had just been cheated on before I entered this relationship, and I was in no place to enter this relationship. I knew that in my heart, but I wanted this guy so badly. We had both wanted each other since we were like.. 17 years old. So, it had to happen. He even said so. We couldn’t have just been friends.
As much as I wanted this to work, I knew in my heart that is would never work out. I never felt right for him. This had nothing to do with me… in the sense that I didn’t want to be with someone else. I just wanted to be alone. I knew I had to be alone. But I couldn’t let go. So, we went back and forth and wore each other down. The break-up was emotionally violent and extremely painful. But, I still felt a sense of relief. And I’m sure he did too. It wasn’t working, as much as we both had wanted it to. We talked for a while after the break-up, but I just kept getting mad at him. And so, he kept getting mad at me. I finally completely destroyed any feelings he had for me… and in a way, I think that’s what I wanted. I think I wanted those horrible feelings of doubt and feeling as if he “belongs” with someone else to come true. And they did. He moved on pretty soon after we broke up, and he is still with her. And she is exactly as I imagined she would be. And I’m happy for him. Truly. I see him being with her for a really long time, and possibly growing old together. We are young, but they look wonderful together. And happy.
Everything happened just as I thought it would. And that’s OK.
I’ve been working on self-love and self-care. I seriously lacked that for the past 6 years. I’ve always been someone’s girlfriend, and not “Claudia.” I didn’t even know what I really wanted, and still don’t. I attribute that partially to my illness, but also due to the fact that it never really mattered to me, as long as I had a guy there to care for.
So, over this past year and a half, I’ve been seriously caring for myself – for my soul, body, mind, etc. My total well-being. I’ve fallen off the wagon a lot of times. I think I am drawn to destructive behaviours, and I think I had serious issues with self-worth. I think this has to do with my home environment and many other deeply rooted things, but I owe it to myself to try and figure this out. It’s not fair to myself and the other people I meet. I owe it to myself to be the best person I can be and to live the life I imagined for myself. As much as I feel like giving up day after day sometimes, I don’t. I can’t. I don’t think people feel the hopelessness I do sometimes, but I am still somehow here. I need to be. And I need to figure out why.
So, with this new lunar eclipse, I’m going to work on myself. Again. And I’ll keep doing so until the day I die.
I’ve been reading that lunar eclipses bring to the surface new emotions, or old ones we have repressed. We are in total darkness at one point. I honestly felt this way for a few days… completely hopeless, sad, and totally unmotivated. Hopeless is a strong word, but it was real.
The lunar eclipse is in Libra, and we are meant to balance out relationship needs with individual freedom (Aries). I’ve noticed that I’ve seriously been neglecting my own needs in relationships in general, as I’ve stated, and my freedom is something I’ve been craving or years. I want to be who I want to be, not who I think someone else wants me to be. That’s what tore me apart and made me act like a monster.
Additionally, the full moon is in the sign of Capricorn, “which has to do with structures, responsibilities, career, and traditions.” I hope for a career change – more money, a different field, and more hours. I need a change, and I expect to have to work hard, but I will do it. It’s time. I need a challenge, and I need to get out.
This is also what needs to be looked at, and I think what I wrote about has touched on these points:
- What parts of my psyche did I reconstruct over the past three years?
- What emotions if any, did I suppress/repress/disassociate from during this time?
- How have I expanded during this time?
- What parts of my life are ready to come into greater balance?
- Is my life based on consideration for others as well as for myself?
- What provides healthy comfort for me at this time?
- What is the core focus on a heart and soul level of this new chapter of my life?
Additionally, here are some new options to look at for self-care:
- Lots of rest and relaxation with the help of Venus and Mars in Taurus as we recuperate on all levels from the past 3 years.
- Time in nature to rejuvenate and rebalance.
- Allowing emotions to surface and dissipate. Music, dancing, crying, journaling, talking etc can all help in the process and also act as containers.
- Meditation and body work to quieten the mind, which could still be quite fast with the stellium (including Mercury) in Aries.
- Paying attention to diet and avoiding excesses. Noticing if we are using food/alcohol/substances in an attempt to suppress emotions.
- Time with loved ones – physical comfort can feel particularly nurturing at this time with Venus in Earthy Taurus.
So there we go! Hopefully this is a great new start. It’s starting to look like spring, and Easter is tomorrow. It’s a great time to celebrate. My parents are cooking lots of great food, and I’ll be drinking lots of wine tomorrow (always a positive!) I also went shopping and finally bought a black blazer, which is one closet staple I have been scouring the corners of the earth for for ages. I also found some other staples, and I got all of these for a really, really great price. I’m grateful, happy, and excited. I still have a tinge of self-doubt and the anticipation of coming bad creeping through, but for now, I’m OK.